How To Start Picking Up Girls On The Streets
Recently I went through a lot of daygame coaching sessions with beginners. I still remember how I started myself, walking aimlessly for hours before I could force myself to do the first set of the day. That was huge waste of time but also a humiliating experience. Thankfully, now you can just read this short text on how to start picking up girls on the streets.
Aim As High As You Can But Not Higher
There are guys out there who are terrified of talking to a hot girl. Some of them are even scared of asking strangers for directions or looking a pretty woman in the eyes. That’s bad but it doesn’t mean no daygame for you. Everything can be fixed but I’m not going to lie to you – it’s a damn hard work.
I found out about pickup and daygame when I realized I’m feeling debilitating anxiety when I have to talk to strangers in an unfamiliar place. I started to look for things that I’m scared of and picking up girls on the streets was at the top of the list.
There is no point in aiming too high when you start. You’ll get bad results, it will be stressful and you’ll get discouraged pretty quickly. On the other hand starting with something below your capabilities simply means you’ll be wasting time. Think about what you can do socially and compare it to the framework below. Start with what’s possible right now.
You don’t need game to become more social. If you’re not already doing that then start to look people in the eyes as you pass them. Then move on to smiling or even throwing a wink every now and then. At the same time whenever you feel like using Google Maps to search for a place – just ask a stranger instead. Become accustomed to talking to people you don’t know.
If you can do that then move on to talking to hot girls. Don’t try to pick them up but simply ask for direction to some strange and/or nonexistent place. That way you’ll get a short chat instead of mere directions. If you’re comfortable with that – throw in a statement of intent in the middle of a conversation. You can say “Okay, I admit it, I wasn’t really looking for that place. I just thought you look nice and I wanted to chat you up. My name is Tom.”
The process above should take you about a month or two going out 3 to 5 times per week to do few sets. Then you can transition to direct daygame. I always recommend the London Daygame Model as it’s very easy to explain and yields good results. But if you’re reading those words then you already know about it.
Your first direct daygame approach can be a hit and run. Instead of picking up a girl on the street just stop her, tell her the compliment and eject by saying “I’d love to stay and chat but I’m already late. Have a nice day!” There. You did your first rejection-proof direct daygame set.
Prepare Your Opener
Number one issue that apparently stops men from approaching girls on the streets is “I don’t know what to say”. With thousands of sites out there, hours of infields you still don’t know how to open a girl? That’s just a lousy excuse and I wrote about it in the past.
You don’t need fancy pick up lines as there are no best daygame openers. You need to say something that a) works, i.e. starts a conversation b) you’re very familiar with. You cannot look like a scared and anxious guy, even if you’re one. You need to show her that picking up girls on the streets isn’t anything unusual for you. And you don’t do that by thinking about the line on the spot.
Prepare an opener. Use it tens or hundreds of times and perfect it. Make yourself so familiar with it that when you stop a girl it comes out of your mouth automatically. You’ll appear confident and she’ll think that you know what you’re doing.
I already dealt with spotlight effect. Spoiler alert: it’s not real. Other people don’t care about you as you’re not that important. Again: watch infield videos and witness hundreds of people passing by every single approach not giving a damn.
“The street has a 30 seconds memory.” – Nick Krauser
When it comes to “not knowing what to say next” there is simply no excuse not to learn how to craft interesting statements especially if you know the hooks theory. Stacking/Vibing are just fancy names for flirting! Be creative, make it fun and even make fun of the girl. She’ll love it. You don’t have to talk about anything in particular, you’re just finding out whether you’re compatible.
Once you’re past the opener and stacking and actually in the conversation then it’s all about not being too friendly and keeping the sexual intent out there. “Don’t hide your dick” as they say. You cannot prepare for the random chats that are results of picking up girls on the streets in any other way than by actually doing it.
So stop whining and deal with all your excuses instead. Then – start approaching.