It’s Not (Always) Your Fault
Two approaches, one girl. We’ve all been there but this time it was something totally different. I unknowingly approached the same chick one day after my first try. And what happened got me blown away. Not because it was so good but because it was so different.
On my way from the gym I noticed a really nice girl standing on the side of the street. She looked a little bit stressed but as I looked back and realized she had great legs I decided that it doesn’t matter that I’m still in my gym clothes. I’m going to do it.
On her arm she had something that resembled a fishing rods bag so I went with my usual opener and that joke. She wasn’t impressed at all and I could tell she didn’t want to talk to me. I wished her a good day and went my way.
And that’s that, right?
Same street, same time, next day. I was going back from the gym. My mood was great as it always is after a heavy workout. I noticed a hot chick standing on the side of the street, looking and smiling at me whilst talking on the phone. Okay, that could be an IOI. I look back and she’s still smiling so I decided to open her.
These girls are like chameleons. She was dressed in different clothes and looked like a different chick. The vibe was different as well but as it turned out it was the same girl.
Thankfully I didn’t use my standard opener as she quickly explained that we’ve seen each other on the previous day. This time the conversation was super fun and lighthearted. I’d say too much rapport, not enough attraction but she did know why I tried to talk to her yesterday.
Number close was the most natural thing to do. I wasn’t just some random stranger who approached her, we talked for a long while and learned few things about each other, she could be sure that I’m living in the same area and you’re usually not working out every day if you’re on a short trip (even though I do) so I’m not in this for just a weekend.
You might wonder what the rest of this story is. I’m first to admit that this lead was rather lukewarm. I don’t know how it is going to end but I may guarantee that she’s not a flake. I have already been on a first date with her.
Kiev is slow. Do not expect fast pulls and crazy stories (although they do happen). Most girls will want to see you few times before they let themselves go.
First part of the date was very similar to the first approach and the rest was very much like the second one. We started slow by having a drink and something to eat. It took us a long time and we did a ton of rapport. But it was too boring so I told her to leave the unfinished drink there and we moved on.
In the second venue we played the question game in my successful attempt to sexualize the conversation. Sometimes all you need to do is to introduce topics like dating, relationships and sex and the girl starts to think the right way. When it started to get hot (and late) I cut the date short to ensure it will be a good memory.
And that was it… so far.
It’s Not (Always) Your Fault
It’s easy to think that you’re in full control of the interaction and when a girl rejects you, she really rejects the approach. That is very often the truth. But not always.
Sometimes she has a bad day, you have a different vibe, she is otherwise occupied and can’t even be bothered. I’m not saying that you should approach the same girl again like I did. I’m merely saying that there’s no point in beating yourself up about every single rejection.
Unless, of course, you fucked something up.