One Hour Date Idea
The standard dating model calls for one date, two venues, about 2 hours and a bounceback that doesn’t always lead to sex. Is there a better, faster way to date?
I’m all about efficiency. Hence, I’m constantly looking for ways to get more girls and be more successful (I’m still in that damned r/K wilderness) but also how to do it faster. That doesn’t necessarily mean I want to sleep with them on the first date (though I do) but also I don’t want to go to many dates that ultimately lead nowhere.
Spike The Emotions
We already know the best dating tips backed by science – that memory of a date will be defined by both maximum and final level of her emotions. That calls for a spike somewhere in the middle of the date and a high note ending. All that is definitely easier when the date is short.
I’ve been too mechanical with my dates – always the same venues and same old tricks. I was trying to perfect them where I should try something completely different instead.
Warm weather, hundreds of people at the river’s banks and recent adventures with a crazy girl gave me an idea that I’m testing right now. It combines a lot of my good traits, in-your-face DHV, emotions and it naturally limits the time spent together. Ready?
Rev The Engine
I take girls on a motorbike ride to the river’s banks to sit, watch all the people around and have a beer. Of course I’m drinking a non-alcoholic one! Sheesh…
It is so much better to give the girl a ride (“Phrasing!“) than to merely talk about the motorbikes. It brings the atmosphere of adventure right away and since riding is a big part of my life – I invite her to my world. If she has never ridden a motorbike then it’s going to be one of the memorable “firsts”.
Moreover, I could see that girls are getting excited while I was describing how she should behave and how to put her helmet on. It settles the hierarchy – you know stuff and explain it to the girl. She’s the female, you’re the male.
Back in the days I used to take girls to a shooting range for the exact same reasons. Find something that is normal for you but unusual for the girl.
Additionally, after just one beer I can cut the date short suggesting that I’d love to have a drink with her but I can’t today because I’m riding. So far two girls out of three suggested leaving the bike at my place. Even if she says “no” to a bounceback then you can propose meeting for actual drinks on another occasion. You know, on a day when you don’t have to* ride.
Whatever you come up with try to make it exciting, adventurous and time constrained. It also shouldn’t be something that you prepare for. Never prepare for your dates.
Always Leave Her Wanting More – Revisited
Even when I don’t ride the bike to the river and just merely meet her there I still try to limit time spent together to just one beer. It is counter-intuitive but I’ve finally seen it working with my very own eyes.
In case you’re wondering – I usually don’t give her any reason, just say “let’s get going” and walk her to the tram home. That way she’s left wondering why I’ve cut the date short. And I’m pretty sure her mind can come up with better excuses than I would.
Making her jealous is a strong move. Even stronger is when she does that to herself.
What I’m trying to do achieve with this approach is to make a strong impression on the first date but end it unexpectedly and without any good reason or bounceback really fast if I get the feeling she’s interested in sex.
I’m still figuring out what to do for the second date in both cases. I could either run the old two-venue model or set up a date next to my place and bounceback (or try to get her directly to my place). Three choices and many upcoming dates to find out which approach works the best.
* No excuse is as good as a bullshit excuse.