Novelty Effect

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Kiev – there and back again. I’m still under its spell as I unintentionally approach many Ukrainian girls here in Warsaw. But I act differently than there. Is Kiev just a magical place or was it just novelty effect of gaming abroad?

The whole vibe back there was “I’m a foreign guy on a adventure” whereas here it’s “I’m an adventurous guy”. It’s subtle and understandable difference that can be attributed to at least two effects. And they both can change your results in unpredictable ways.


Flow State (a.k.a. The Zone)

I hinted on the zone many times before, especially when I was writing the more action series of posts. Flow is a state of immersion, focus and enjoyment in the process of any given activity. If you’ve ever worked on something and lost the track of time but it was too enjoyable for you to stop or even worry about eating or drinking – you were in the zone.

If you ever played a computer game not realizing how late it was until the sun has risen then you could also be in the flow state. And you wasted it for a computer game, dumbass!

Daygame-wise you are in the zone when you get great reaction from every single girl. These days happen for everyone and they are highly depended on your state and general happiness in your life. The better you are the higher the chance of hitting jackpot. And then even that bitchy girl with a scowl on her face stops, smiles and chats with you. You get a number from all the girls, you’re on the top.

That state won’t last but make a good use of it. Its value is mostly as the reference point of what’s possible. Treat it as a memory to hold onto when inevitably you hit the bottom. You have to realize that it’s not the skill that’s changing but your vibe. By definition, you cannot persist in flow state.


Novelty Effect

The novelty effect is the observable tendency to get better results when something is changed (e.g. a new technology is rolled out at your work). It comes not from increased skill or ability (or even the tech) but from increased interest in that particular activity.

Of course in daygame world the effect manifests itself when you’re excited by being in a new/foreign city and you approach more girls there.

It’s easy to confuse flow state with novelty effect. Or should I say that it’s easier to get into the zone when you’re doing new things? Whenever you’re doing something new (or in a new way) it is exciting. You cannot help that. Emotions are always more intense when it’s not familiar. But that is not the same as flow state.

I used to think that caution and familiarity are things that are helping me in life. In fact they were keeping me back. I’m writing this words at the beginning of yet another great adventure.

We all know that feeling – starting daygame, saying your first compliments, watching how girls react for a stranger stopping them in broad daylight. Oh, those were the days. First 100-200 approaches are awesome. You don’t care about the results because you get good results. You feel great and it shows.

tddaygame enjoying novelty effect - being filmed on camera

Then the grind starts, then you actually need to put work into all this. Novelty wears off and you’re back to raw, base level of your daygame skills. If you can’t handle your results toppling you might need a break or you’ll quit. You can also seek novelty elsewhere – change your usual daygame areas, star approaching two-sets or hired guns in the shopping mall. Do something new.


Daygaming While High

When you’re high on your successes or flow state everything is easier. You seem to effortlessly get a number to almost every girl that you talk to. No matter that she’s engaged or even pregnant (ok, not that). The conversations are flowing nicely, the girls are really into you and you get a lot of numbers…

And they all flake. Or most of them. You’re left with proverbial dick in your hand wondering what happened. It’s quite simple – you were creating a bubble of positivity around you and during the conversation girls were sucked into it. Now that you’re gone she’s left with a vague memory of a too-cool-to-be-real guy.

That’s why I said flow state is most useful as reference point. It’s your personal “you can do it” memory. You can try to mitigate flakes by trying to remember to DHV really hard but let’s face it – you’re having too much fun. You don’t even realize you’re in the zone until it’s too late. But that’s fine.


Enjoy the flow state and have fun with it. Moreover, remember to actually exploit the novelty effect. If you’re doing something new – do a lot of it. If you’re in a new place – approach like a crazy person. Especially if you’re on an eurojaunt.


Male-female relationships commentator. Also a traveler, adrenaline junkie and, believe it or not, introvert. Still obsessed with working out, coaching daygame and living life to the full.

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