3 Ways To Approach Even More Girls
Number one issue with not doing enough approaches is the ridiculous notion that there aren’t that many hot girls out there. There are but you have to be honest with yourself that you would want to fuck them.
Last year I wrote that you should be picky and I stand by that… when it comes to the type of relationship you’re aiming at. So if a girl wants to be serious and monogamous and you don’t – move on. Filter using her interest, availability and probability of a fast lay if quick sex is what you’re after.
If you’re thinking about a long-term relationship or even (ugh) marriage then the list of requirements should definitely be vast. You can check out Ivan Throne’s recommendations if you’re interested in that.
I’m not into monogamous relations and as such I only need to filter for the sexual availability. That means I shouldn’t rule out girls using stupid excuses which usually are approach anxiety in disguise.
The Binary Scale
We all rate girls on a scale from 1 to 10 (or in my case from 6 to 9). It saves us a lot of time when we talk to other guys. But that thinking on the streets can limit your number of approaches for two reasons: you self-sabotage yourself when it comes to high 8s and 9s and you skip the low 7s and high 6s.
Use a binary scale instead. The only question you want to answer should be “if I had her in my apartment would I want to sleep with her”? It’s either zero (would not bang) or one (yes, please). We’re ignoring all the other factors – her style, vibe, whether she smokes or not, etc. You won’t know all the specifics before you approach and date her so there is no point in including them in your evaluation.
There is special place for girls who call for a beer or two before you’d want to sleep with them. They’re 0.5 on a binary scale.
When you’re an experienced daygamer and you’ve done your share of the grind you bloody well know how much work you have to put in to get a lay with a hot, young girl. That will stop you from approaching “sixes” or “borderline fuckable” girls. There is nothing wrong with that. After all, you’re in this to meet, date and sleep with the girls that you really want.
The question changes from “do I want to fuck her?” to “is she worth all the effort required to sleep with her?” and it’s not a subtle difference. You might want her but not bad enough. However, if you’re a beginner do not waste opportunities to gain experience with the girls you find “just attractive”. She is still nice, isn’t she?
She Is Hotter Than You Think
Many guys I coached and daygamed with are guilty of ignoring their own wants. Many times I’ve seen a guy looking after a girl that passed him by with lust in his eyes but when I ask him “her?” he says “she wasn’t hot enough”. Really?
Own your desires. You have no control over what you find attractive and remember that it’s going to be you who will fuck that girl, not your wing or anyone else. If you subconsciously looked after her there must’ve been something in her. Go and find out!
The exercise I propose for all guys with that ailment is to rank her on a scale of 1 to 10 before and after doing the approach. In most cases, you’ll find that the grades after the approach will be higher by at least one point. And there’s a good reason for that.
Of course you can’t use that strategy with the previous one. Duh.
The more time you spend with someone the more you like her. Liking her also means finding her more attractive. Add to that the possibility that you might actually find something interesting and/or fetching about her and you’ll certainly rate her better. When in doubt err on the side of approaching her anyway.
Legs, Boobs or Ass?
When it comes for the main thing men find attractive in girls there are three types. Some like slim legs, some big boobs and some nice asses. These are not exclusive but most of the time there is very significant preference towards one of those.
Legs guys are drawn towards athletic and slim girls. If you like big asses then you usually welcome everything that’s traditionally associated with high fertility. Those who like big boobs should just stop watching porn. Jokes aside – there are certain body types you’ll find more attractive than the others. Use them not to discriminate but to fine tune your radar which you scan the streets.
Of course that’s only the body type but it’s the thing you see from a distance. When she comes closer, you’ll also look for the facial features you fancy. Some of you are all in for bitchy girls with big lips and smooth facial features and the others like harder features with prominent cheekbones (think typical Russian girls). There are also those cute girls and girls-next-door. Sort it out for yourself!
The thing is if you don’t know what you’re after then you’re going to ignore a lot of girls that don’t fit your ideal… which you have never even visualized let alone written down. So do that – write down those qualities and whenever you’re “not sure if she’s hot enough” quickly go through that list in your mind. Do you like her legs and face? Is she your type? Good, approach.
You should look for many other qualities in a girl you want to be dating and/or sleeping with. However, to get rid of all the stupid excuses before you approach you have to focus solely on the visual aspect because – well – you have no other information.
That alone should allow you approach more.