Daygame Nomad vs. Stationary Daygame
Many well known daygamers are nomads or travelers. They spend most of their time away from home, travelling here and there. They’re constantly on the move to meet girls from different countries and enjoy their mini-relationships (or one night stands). I’m lucky enough to live in a big city and game mostly local girls. But I’ve also managed to travel just for daygame. While I’m certainly not an expert on euro-jaunts I can spot few differences.
Let’s start with what everyone is thinking. “Being a foreign guy gets you laid much easier!” In one word? Nope. You have to deal with sex tourist label, language barrier, nationalist ideologies (yes, there are girls who just won’t sleep with a guy from other country) and – most of all – lack of time. Contrary to popular belief panties aren’t dropping left and right when you pull out your… passport. So why do people travel for daygame? Some are more attracted to girls from specific region, others like both travel and daygame and there are guys living in terrible places where hot girls are unheard of. Like Germany.
When you’re living in Shitsville you have to travel for daygame. There is no other way.
The most reliable and easy to sustain way to get better at anything is doing something every day. If you’re training at the gym 7 times per week then it just becomes your ingrained habit. You don’t even think of saving time for the gym as you start to organize all other activities around your fixed trainings. It’s no different with daygame. Doing it regularly makes the learning so much easier and the internalization so much faster. That’s why doing it locally can be of many benefits.
If your city has at least 700 thousand inhabitants (some say a million) you could be picking up girls for years without great risk of running into same girl twice (or thrice, which is hilarious). If there are some universities then you will also have a steady influx of students. You can’t complain as to the lack of girls, venues, activities and ideas for dates. But the sheer number of available women is the biggest factor here. You can organize your life in a way that every week you approach some girls and throw them into the funnel.
Without the need to push as many approaches as humanly possible into a short period of time your risk of burnout is much smaller. Unless you do something stupid like try to approach 200 girls per month your body (and results) will tell you what ratio is sustainable in the long term. There is no sense in doing 50 approaches in one weekend and then rest for 2 weeks because you’re too fed up with daygame. Be smart, you’re running a marathon, not a sprint. Many numbers will flake, many dates will lead to nowhere. You can’t be relying on a single number farming run to get you success. You have to constantly update and reevaluate your leads.
That’s why you integrate daygame into your life seamlessly. You take a long way home from work. You wander around crowded area before you go to the gym (or after – in which case don’t forget to take a shower). You daygame before some regular activity or you make daygame one. There’s no pressure nor a fixed deadline.
You don’t have that luxury when you travel – first days are hardcore number farming and the following are packed with both daygame and dates right until you fill all the possible dating slots. Then you back off daygame, do some sightseeing an date, date, date trying to figure out which girls are the most promising. And then you either close or plan a second trip to finish things off.
And that’s the issue with travelling – most guys won’t tell you that but to not give off that creepy sex tourist vibe you really have to stay longer (10-15 days) or come back after few weeks. Weekend trips for daygame are pointless unless you’ve already got some solid leads or girlfriends. And the latter are harder to get. When you sleep with a girl from a different country it’s double the adventure it usually is. What normalizes your fast lays at home is the ability to see the girl in a few days, repeat the sex and also show that you’re not disappearing anytime soon thus starting some kind of relationship.
I have this weird quality that girls in general want to stay with me, even though they know I’m a player. I don’t get buyer’s remorse outrages, they know what they’re getting into… and they’re fine with it. Which in turn means that most of the girls I sleep with become “regulars“. Either we’re non-exclusively dating or it’s a pure fuck friend relationship. But we see each other once in a week or two, have sex, do some fun stuff. It’s totally different with your foreign “girlfriends” where in most cases in few days you’re going back home to return after weeks at best. If ever. I’ve yet to have a “foreign regular”. Maybe it’s easier for the nomads because they travel so much…
That’s why I praise stationary daygame. Local girls, no time pressure, far easier logistics, ability to plan dates further than next two days, no sex tourist concerns (just regular womanizer ones), etc. And living in a big city gives you the same anonymity than being a foreigner somewhere else. But somehow many guys have the idea that daygame works only abroad.
Now we all know that genetic distance is attractive. That’s why sooner or later you will want to go to some other country to take your chances with girls that are in some way exotic. But don’t fool yourself that you’ll get better results in a foreign place than you’re getting at home. At the very best they’ll be on par, probably a tad worse. Unless you’re going to some country like Thailand to pay for sex. But that’s not what we’re interested in. At least I’m not.
If your daygame sucks in your own country then you won’t do any better abroad.
Living in a big city? Then there is nothing stopping you from starting your adventures right now and there. You can always travel later to get some flags, once your skill is good enough. If you’re stuck in a small town – either try to escape or take big and long vacations in a places where you can (and want) return to. And remember – there is no downside to travelling.