I like to think about daygame as a skill. All vibe and momentum issues aside in the long term it’s just a skillset. That’s why there’s no point in analyzing one approach or even a single day. If you’re making progress week to week (or month to month) you’re on a good track. Since I can think of it as a learning process training that also gives way to so many accurate analogies. That’s why I like to compare daygame to physical training.
Not even a year ago I’ve picked up running. You cannot train by running every day with your target pace neither you can run every other day for many hours. Both ways you’ll hurt yourself for sure. On the other hand running twice a week for half an hour maybe can help your self-esteem but it won’t make shit for your results. The same can be said for running all your weekly trainings on one day. Also consider the pace – too fast and you’ll get hurt, too slow and you’re not really training.
What you need to do is consistently push yourself as hard as you can keeping in mind that you’re working towards a long term goal. So train hard but do not overtrain. Train often but give your body time to heal and learn new skills. Run fast but not too fast. And remember that a lot of learning happens while you’re sleeping. You need rest and your mind needs to process experiences. But if there is a key – it name is persistence.
So let’s apply this to daygame. Approaching single day every week, even if it’s 50 girls, won’t make any long term changes in your vibe. If you talk to one girl per day it will work albeit extremely slow. And if you skip a day you’d probably be back to square one. Remember that you’ll have bad days and bad streaks.
Disclaimer: if you’re beating your approach anxiety even one girl per day is enough. The way that works is that a) you familiarize yourself with the daygame experience b) you learn that rejections aren’t that hard c) eventually you’ll get some success stories and finally d) after many wasted hours you’ll just get angry at yourself for no action and start to approach more and more.
So if you’re not absolute beginner and not yet advanced try to do as much as you can as often as you can. But what does it mean?
I’m sure I could approach 20 girls on one day. I never done that though. On my best days with best vibe and great weather I did 10 girls a day tops. Usually I make 3-6 approaches per day. Most of those include few minutes of talking. Some of the conversations are 10-15 minutes long. I simply don’t have the time to do 20 approaches every day. I could cut the interactions short but I’m in no hurry to gather a lot of numbers in short time. I live and daygame in one big city and as I said before – the longer the conversation the better the number.
Now don’t get me wrong. There are many guys that suggest approaching less than 10 girls per day “oesn’t even count as a daygame session. If you can approach that many girls – sure do that. I can’t, at least not in the long term. I wouldn’t be able to sustain that pace. I’d burn out pretty quickly and I’d lost my daygame fun.
I think that approaching 70-110 girls per month is what you should be trying to do. So there will be days when you will approach 10 and then there will be those that you go on an instant date with first girl you’ve talked to. Focus on quality of conversations, technicality of approach and on your daygame skillset. If you’re already getting laid enough focus on quality of the girls.
As for schedule I think that “sarging” 5 to 6 times a week is the best. I diss the weekend sarges cause instead of internalizing the concept of daygame you make “sarge” a special event. That means you’re more “off” than “on”. Today I’ve approached a girl while I was going for a lunch and another one when I waited for a friend. I couldn’t do that if I was approaching every now and then. Doing many sets every single day is obviously the best for your daygame. But approaching few girls consistently every day (or most days) is as good. And the latter won’t burn you out so quickly. If you go out and think “jezz I have to do x more sets today” you lose all the fun. And because of that you lose the girls.
So there you have it – my view on what’s a sustainable daygame pace. Don’t make yourself a daygame addict but at the same time do force yourself to do at least few approaches on most days.
All that applies to stationary game where you live and game in the same area. It’s totally different for Euro jaunts and holiday fucks. But that’s whole other story…