SQI SMS Stack (a.k.a. Texting Distilled)

So, texting, huh?

Okay, it’s been a while. Busy time. I had to take a week off my daygame because the effects of overtraining and “catabolism” really showed up. That’s a topic for a whole other post as until now I was always a proponent of “pushing through”. However, my results clearly went up after the break. That also meant that I had very little time to maintain this blog. This too will change as per advice from one and only Tom Torero I will now write and teach more.

As I promised – this time is a quick tip and what you find is this post is text game distilled. Texting is the part of game I was overthinking for a while. Always wondering “what I could do better”, “why she isn’t writing back” and too many times I’ve realized what I’ve just done seconds after clicking “Send”. Now I know what I’m doing, I know the goal and the road that takes me there. Of course there are always flakes and dead numbers and girls that go completely off radar. But I’m not second-guessing myself… as often.

The goal is taking a girl out and the road is simple – inviting her. But as you won’t get any successes approaching the girls and saying “I’ve just noticed you and thought you’ve got great legs. Let’s go for a coffee tomorrow evening.” just texting “Let’s meet here and there.” usually won’t work (unless the vibe was THAT good).

I’m not the author of that stack but I absolutely love it. It’s simple and down to business. Meet the Statement-Question-Invite by DayGameAdam. I’ll simplify what’s there and expand on it a little.

The premise is that you don’t want to ask the girl too many questions but at the same time you don’t want to send her just statements. Unless she’s already thinking about fucking you you’ll need both. And of course you need the invite. This is the simplest sequence of texting: statement, question, invite. Let’s say you’re texting a number that you’ve got earlier that day. It should look something like this (translated example):

It was nice meeting you today. I hope you didn’t lie about not murdering anyone today. 🙂

Haha. No, I’m still smiling and didn’t murder anyone so far. 🙂

So I ran into you that one day a year when you don’t smile?! 😉

So much win. 🙂 I’m always in good mood!

Let’s find out over a glass of cider. Is Monday or Tuesday working for you more?

Be creative. The usual hiccup is that your question is wrong. This is the crucial part – you have to send a question phrased so that whatever her response is you can ask her out. It’s always good to accuse her of something or to suggest an activity she might like. Accusation could be “Oh my, do you go shopping every single day?” (she’s defensive – “Phew, so let’s meet tomorrow evening for something something”, she plays along – “That’s an addiction! Take Sunday off, I’m taking you for something something.”). Suggesting an activity is another (translated) example:

It was nice meeting you today. I hope you succeeded in your hunt for the perfect coat. 🙂

I was expecting a text around 3 am but it’s nice you’ve texted earlier. 🙂 Unfortunately I haven’t found the coat so I hope it starts getting warmer starting tomorrow. 🙂

I wouldn’t count on it. The weather is going to be really great for a hot mulled wine so you better find your coat. 🙂

Great idea, I love mulled wine and I’ll be warmer in case I don’t find a coat. 🙂

Mulled wine it is! Wednesday or Thursday?

Now that I’ve written this post and scanned my texts I found out that many of the invites are precceded by a statements. So the model is SQSI. And sometimes it’s SQSQI. It depends on how good you can steer the conversation into asking her out so that it won’t look out of the blue. The conversation should flow naturally into the invite. But do it as fast as you can and always think about “how she’ll reply to that and what I can do with it”. What you want to do is have a natural invite one-two texts away.

[Initial text. Callback humor.]

[Response, vibing.]

[Capitalize on response – ask follow up OR continue your callback humor – ask question.]

[Response. vibing.]

[Statement, slightly changing conversation towards question you want to ask.]

[Capitalization on your statement.]

[Calibrate on her last text and ask seeding question.]



Using daygame terms in SQSQI conversation first three texts are vibing then question seeds the invite then whatever the girl replies you invite her cause you’ve calibrated your last question properly. It’s as simple as that.

Remember your goal. Don’t be needy if she don’t respond, leave it for 2-3 days and the reinitiate with a ping. If you can’t think of a good question that will seed the invite do another statment-question pair. But never text her twice in a row or text her for more than 5-7 messages. You don’t want to be her texting friend. You want to invite her out (and of course seduce her).

Ps. I strongly recommend inviting the girl out during the first text conversation but the same can happen later. You just replace the initial text with a ping (text ping or better yet – an image ping).


Male-female relationships commentator. Also a traveler, adrenaline junkie and, believe it or not, introvert. Still obsessed with working out, coaching daygame and living life to the full.

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zatara wood - 2016-07-03

what if the girl doesn't respond to 1st text after meeting? do you ping her a few days later or is this essentially a dead number now?

tddaygame - 2016-07-03

Exactly that. I ping her after 2-3 days. If there is still no response – I shoot a "final" text in line of "You don't write, you don't call, the children are crying. What I'm supposed to tell them?!" and forget about the number.


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